Last week I recorded a really interesting podcast episode with someone who shared they really clung to the relationship escalator model. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, it basically means to follow a certain trajectory of relationships: dating, defining the relationship/exclusivity, moving in together, marriage, and kiddos. While…

Something that often comes up with clients before first dates is: how do I remain positive and hopeful when embarking on a new experience while protecting myself from getting hurt or let down if it doesn’t go the way I want? I think this is part of dating (and going…

Ariella, I am a sex-indifferent asexual who has been dating and identifying as ace for 11 years now. I have never been comfortable starting sexual activities; I am okay with physical touches like hugs and cuddles. However, I have found that even if I tell people I am ace up front, they still try to pressure sex on me. How early into dating do I tell a person of my asexual? How do I have conversation with them about their desired/needed sexual activity frequencies? I feel like I do this as best I can and yet endless get people who think they can “fix” me or “convince me to enjoy it.”

CW: Naming transphobia, ableism. This week I received an interesting DM from a follower that read: “Can you do a poll if more femme presenting queers mind dating shorter than them? …

First, a little rant. I get this question quite a bit, and I understand it completely. We want scripts. We want something fool-proof. We want something with a proven success rate so that putting ourselves out there doesn’t have a risk. It doesn’t feel so scary. …

I was asked this question by a former client on my instagram stories last week. I was going to address it with a quick little video, but I realized that I had so much to say about this topic, as my connection to it is really personal and incredibly present…

Watching last night’s After The Final Rose had me feeling really uncomfortable because of Katie and Greg’s “closure conversation”. This felt like an example of bad fighting. It was not productive at all. Katie cut Greg off many times, raised her voice at him, steamrolled a lot of what he…

“How can I tell if someone is flirting with me through text message?” One of my clients asked me this question during Date Better Bootcamp. …

Disclaimer #1: I only watched the episode once and then rewatched the moment Greg “turned” a second time before writing this. This post only addresses the initial issue, not any problematic words and actions (though there were many) in the moments/day that followed. Disclaimer #2: Again, this piece is not…